Having faith in fate

We all know God works in the most mysterious ways. And many of us believe that He creates that special someone for everyone out there – a soul mate. And somehow God will bring these two souls to find each other. That’s how destiny and fate works, right?

Could it be that God would create two people as polar opposites so that they would fit together perfectly – like two halves of a broken heart? That they’d have personalities so different that each would be the strengths to the other’s weaknesses allowing their characteristics to complement each other perfectly so that to have the best, they would need each other?

This is the story of Rusheel and Kirthavya…

After coming across each other through an unorthodox method of communication a few months ago, Kirthavya and Rusheel really got to know each other.

Starting off as a little flirtation, the chats and calls progressed and it was evident they had chemistry. Within a short time they found that it was easy to completely open up to each other and share their deepest feelings, thoughts, dreams and fears.

In essence what they were each looking for they could find in each other.

Rusheel laughs as he recalls a conversation with Kirthavya about his childhood stories of eating doughnuts and drinking Coke at school sports events. Kirthavya said she wished that she went to an “Indian school” with "Cultural Day" and biryani, etc as in her school they were given energy drinks and health bars!

Despite their differences, they share many of the same traits and loves too.

They have an inexplicable love for music. It brings out a passion in them that is just beyond words. They could spend hours in each other’s company without saying anything but just listening to music.

They have a strong affinity for their culture and traditions and family. Even with modern lifestyles, they are fundamentally grounded with their culture and traditions, enjoying every aspect of it.

Their sense of humour and teasing leaves each of them laughing and smiling for hours.

In each other’s company they often forget about the rest of the world

They can talk for hours about anything and everything. They have discovered within each other the best of confidantes and the most avid of listeners allowing them to open up and share their feelings and thoughts because of the trust their relationship is built on.

He is attracted to her wit and charm, finds her intelligence as attractive as her beauty (he will tell you she is the most beautiful girl in the world, no need to ask!)

I think you get the idea of how well Rusheel and Kirthavya gel with each other - it's the type of story that epic movies are made of.

But due to a series of misfortunate events (through no fault of their own) Kirthavya has taken a step back and lost faith in who Rusheel is and all he can be to her. Maybe Kirthavya knows in her heart this is where she should be, but her mind keeps its guard up and prevents her from acting. She could be afraid of making the wrong decision which could result in her being hurt. Whatever the case, she has just lost interest.

But from those events good things have emerged.

Rusheel learnt much about himself and where his priorities should lie. He learnt much about Kirthavya too. He made changes to himself; and his life – changes that he should have made a long time ago but never fully understood why…until now. Rusheel and Kirthavya was his primary focus. Kirthavya understood this - for them to be great and for things to work out without interference they had to focus on each other and develop their relationship.

Unfortunately, for Kirthavya it wasn't that simple.

She knows the guy that Rusheel is. She has seen the person he has become as well. She knows that at no point will he not have her as a priority in his life. He is devoted, committed and loyal to her and with their trust issues this means something to both of them. She knows that he will do everything he can to make life easy for her, that he will take care of her and not let her fall. That he actually is good for her. But for whatever reason, she has just lost interest and does not want to try anymore.

For Rusheel, Kirthavya is who he spent his life searching for.

He believes God lead them to find each other because they need each other. He was showing them the people they need not just the people they want, in their lives. He believes that because part of their personalities and traits are opposite to each other it is what they both need in their lives. Maybe “the plan” was for them to complement each other - his positivity and optimism, her being grounded; his protective nature, her soft and sensitive nature; his ability to lead, her indecisiveness; his social nature, her being laid-back; and much more. He thinks that just by looking at their personalities and similarities there’s definitely something amazing there – as these are not traits that fight against each other, these are things that go together! Being someone who believes in the power of God, he knows that things like this don't just happen by chance, there has to be a higher power involved.

What would you, as Rusheel, do - let go, or keep trying?

He knows that he cannot make Kirthavya change her mind nor can he convince her that what she is doing is not the best for both of them. She can only realise that for herself.

Does he wait until Kirthavya realises that in life God brings us what and who we need, but it is up to us to do something about it? In time, just by trying this will turn into everything she imagines and it will be everything she's been looking for. We should follow our heart – it is the only thing we can really trust.

We fight these battles within ourselves between our heart and mind. Often, it is the mind that corrupts us, not the heart – leading us away from what is good or what we deserve because we convince ourselves it is not meant to be that way. We start looking for “signs” and making up reasons to run, instead of accepting there are stronger reasons to stay. We get fixated on negatives in others and neglect the positives.

It makes you feel normal now, yeah? But does that make it right or the best?

My readers, you would be doing yourself an injustice by not reading this beautiful book called ‘The Prophet’ by Khalil Gibran. Written in 1923 by a man nearing the end of his days, it is a short book with lessons so powerful that they are the length of a lifetime.

“And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.”